In this article, we are going to tell you how to prepare for anal sex and how to make the experience memorable (in a good way). There will be many tips shared, much advice given. Make sure you have enough time to spare, it’s probably going to be a long read.
How to prepare yourself for anal sex?
Have a conversation about anal.
Yeah, you can’t go straight to anal without discussing it first. If you and your partner can’t have a candid conversation about anal, chances are – you’re not ready for anal itself anyway. If you discuss everything there’s to discuss, it will surely make the experience more pleasurable and comfortable for both parties.
Be sure to give a detailed rundown of what’s going to happen and what’s NOT going to happen. Is it going to be penetration only? Are any adult toys involved? What are hard NOs? Is there a way to make the experience more comfortable? You also need to make sure you understand what are your partner’s biggest turn-ons and turn-offs.
Conduct some solo research.
Before you insert something into someone’s butt, you should definitely explore your own. If you don’t know how any of it works from the first-hand experience, there’s no way you’re ready to penetrate another person’s anus.
If you’re a male, there are many additional benefits for you – you are going to broaden your sexual horizons and discover a whole another dimension of pleasure. Some men might be hesitant because anal play makes them feel “unmanly,” but there’s nothing wrong with experiencing pure pleasure like never before. Why would God create a g-spot in a man’s anus if he doesn’t want you to explore it? Come on, that’s just stupid!
Lube is the most important thing ever.
As you’re probably aware, the anus can’t self-lubricate, which requires you to stock up on lubricants. There are quite a few things to take into consideration before finalizing the purchase, though – water-based personal lubricants are your best bet to start with, but silicone-based types are slippery, longer-lasting, and, therefore, ideal for a lengthier session.
Start with a rimjob.
Rimjob, rimming, salad tossing, anilingus, whatever you might call it. What’s really surprising is a little bit of oral play can go a long way – after a short rimming session, the recipient is sure to feel more relaxed and aroused. The running togue is going warn them up to the idea of relaxing their sphincters and letting in something more substantial.
It’s extremely important to note that spit can NOT and must NOT be used as lube. It’s insufficient and you’re going to have a very bad time with it.
Utilize toys in preparation.
Even before you try to shove something into someone’s ass, remember that you can never ever insert something that does NOT have a flat base. Unlike some other orifices, the rectum doesn’t come to a full stop, so a flat base is needed to make sure that you can always pull it out.
As you might have already guessed, the key here is to do it slowly, little by little. Ask your partner to relax and let it in. Insert it and remove it when it comes too much. Re-insert after re-applying lube, etc. If it feels good, you’re on the right track. If it doesn’t feel as good, you should not hesitate to just call it quits for today and resume tomorrow.
Or enjoy some fingering instead.
If there are no toys at the ready, a finger is an amazing option. Since there’s added tactile sensations, you’re going to learn how the sphincter works, anatomically. Better yet, you can use your finger to stimulate the muscles of the anus to get to relax completely, which will lead to extremely pleasurable intercourse.
No matter what you see in porn, one finger is sufficient, so there’s no need to try and “gape” the butt in order to make sure it’s stretched enough. Also, don’t forget to trim and file your nails so there’s no way you can injure your partner.
How to prepare for clean anal sex
Clean up.
As simple as it sounds. By the way, you shouldn’t be worried about poop all that much – it’s stored in the upper bowels and there’s no way an average (or above-average) penis is long enough to reach it. Nonetheless, you SHOULD be worried if the person on the receiving end experiences irregular bowel movements.
That being said, there’s still a very good reason for you to clean your body thirty to sixty minutes before the experience because the cleaner you are, the sexier/more confident you feel. That, of course, affects the experience in a major way. In other words, a good shower never hurts. Remember that if you don’t have enough time to shower, you can always use a moist towel or a baby wipe.
Use an enema.
It’s not necessary in all cases, but it will also help you feel more confident. A deeper, more thorough cleaning might be needed if you’re not entirely sure if your bowels are doing okay. Maybe you’re just an anxious person and need to be 100% sure about everything at all times.
Every disposable enema kit comes with instructions, so we’re sure that you can figure out how to use one. Just make sure that the water that you’re releasing is clear and you’re MORE than ready for CLEAN anal.
