It can be a choice, a lifestyle change, loss of interest, etc. It doesn’t really matter what caused you to abandon sex as long as it’s perfectly fine with you. In this article, we are going to talk about various ways to live without sex in order to raise awareness and increase the acceptance of sexless relationships.
How to live without sex in marriage?
One of the most important questions to ask before the aforementioned one – can a marriage without sex actually survive? The shortest possible answer is yes – a marriage without sex can endure for years and years. It should be noted that it might come at a high cost. In case one of the persons involved desires intimacy and the other one is uninterested, it might lead to all sorts of issues, including feelings of bitterness and, in worse cases, adultery. Even in relationships in which both halves are perfectly happy without sex, the partners still have to be on the alert at all times – they need to come up with new ways of building intimacy.
If your sexless marriage involves unequal libidos or other issues that are making you feel detached and unwanted – it’s pivotal for you to work on bringing back passion and intimacy. Oftentimes, a marriage without intimacy only lasts because both parties convince themselves that they’re doing just fine and continue to soldier on. You must avoid this pitfall at all costs – even though everybody’s different and responds to lack of sex of different ways, it should NOT become the new norm (unless you’re both fine with it).
How to live in a relationship without sex?
Living in a sexless relationship is slightly different than living in a sexless marriage. There are many different reasons why this might happen – perhaps you just gave birth, maybe the penetration is too painful, maybe the male partner is suffering from ED, perhaps there’s a different type of sickness that influences your libido. The absence of sex doesn’t necessarily imply that you can’t be intimate with one another. Here are a few things that you can do in order to make your partner feel loved and desired:
- Touch one another. There’s a distinct lack of tactile contact when it comes to your average, run-of-the-mill relationship. After a certain amount of time passes, we just become complacent and stop touching each other unless we’re in the mood to initiate sex. Since intercourse is not an option, you can just touch each other’s bodies to preserve intimacy without actually doing the deed. You will soon find out that your body is riddled with erogenous zones.
- Hand holding. This one is similar to the one described above. There’s something about holding hands that makes the two of you feel closer than ever before. It’s hard to describe this feeling, but you will understand what we are talking about it. Doesn’t matter if your relationship has already lasted decades – holding hands is great for maintaining a certain level of closeness.
- Pretend you are a brand-new item. During the earlier stages of your relationship, it was hard for you to keep your hands off of each other but you probably weren’t having sex just yet. It’s time for you to recapture that magic!
How to live with boyfriend without sex?
There exist many ways for you to live with your boyfriend without having sexual relations with each other. We will talk about some of the ways you can uphold closeness and intimacy without going all the way:
- Explore ways that you can still enjoy orgasms. You may not be interested/able to have sexual intercourse, but you can both get off. Look into different types of sexual stimulation, help each other out.
- Cuddling, lots of cuddling. You remember the cozy feeling of the post-intercourse cuddling session, right? Well, you can just skip the act altogether and enjoy the warmness of each other’s bodies.
- Discover intimacy aside from sex. Sharing hobbies can open up many different ways of being intimate with each other. It can be something as simple as taking up online courses together, it can be something physical like golf or hiking, it can be something fun, etc. There are no limits to the things that you can do together and there’s always a way to make the experience romantic on top of it being absolutely riveting.
- Dance together. It helps you stay in shape, it’s a great hobby, and it can also be extremely intimate when you share a dance with a person that you love. Maybe you should consider taking up dancing lessons together in order to feel closer to your partner.
- Maintain openness, talk frequently. Not everyone is an extrovert, not everyone is ready to bring up difficult subjects in conversation, BUT you must realize that silence kills relationships. Sometimes you being silent means that there’s nothing left to say and there’s pretty much nothing worse than that, especially if intercourse is off the table when it comes to building/maintaining intimacy.
- Sleep together. Falling asleep in each other’s arms can be incredibly intimate, on top of being extremely romantic. Even though there’s no intercourse that’s going to happen, it is still important for you to sleep together because it’s about trust.
